Are you able to clearly describe exactly what it is you wish to experience in life? Better yet, can someone close to you describe exactly what it is you want to me if I were to ask them? If you are not able to describe exactly what you desire in life, you are creating a barrier to actually receiving what you want. Think about what would happen if you visited a high end restaurant and made an order of "something really good to eat." You might get back something to eat, but would it be good to you? Would the meal be what you had in mind? Would you eat it even if you did not love it simply because it was what the waiter gave you?
For the longest time I had the severe difficulties clearly defining and voicing my intentions. I believe a combination of fear and disbelief was the culprit. If I was to make known what I desired, it would mean that:
1. I would actually have to know what I wanted.
2. I would need to acticulate those intentions in a way that adequately described what was in my head.
3. I may actually be held accountable for the words I spoke about my intentions.
So while I was allowing those excuses to hold me back to proclaiming exactly what it is I wanted, I continued to recieve a generic version of what I wanted my life to be.
It was as if the chef had brought out "chicken" but not prepared the way I wanted to experience it. The worst part about not expressing my intentions specifically, was that I could not say to myself, "I did not want breaded chicken, I wanted baked chicken."
There are several methods you can use to develop that clear picture. You can implement the help of a vision board to make those mental images come alive. You can also journal your thoughts on paper. Best of all, you can vocalize exactly what you wish to experience. Children often do this when they vividly describe the way they want their life to be when they grow up.
I believe that we are extremely unproductive when we do not have a clear picture of what we desire and the reasons why. In the case of romantic relationships, this idea is extremely important. Alot of time is wasted on one unproductive relationship after another when we remain with an individual who does not have our similar values.
We may find it challenging to explicitly express our desires if we have never done so before. If you are having difficulty describing what you want, you may start with what you do not want. Once you have detailed what you wish to avoid, immediately convert those images to what you wish to experience. If you remain on "what you do not want" for too long, then your focus is on the negative. Our focus creates our reality so we must be sure to focus on the right things. As soon as your are able to articulate your desires, you will be able to notice the incongruencies between what it is you want and what it is you are currently experiencing. Once that happens, you can make critical decisions on what actions steps you need to make to experience those things you desire in your life.
Creation. The human act of creating. As we read these words we may be thinking of producing some type of tangible object. We all know those who are naturally creative. They are able to create magnificent specimens simply by putting their creative ideas into action and "viola!" If we are not one of those people we may find ourselves secretly wishing we could could make something appear from a creative mental thought.
Truth is, we are one of those people. All of us. Constantly creating. Creating does not necessarily require conscious effort. Every thing I do, every second of the day, creates a result. Am I experiencing a desired result? Perhaps. But if there exists any area where I am not happy with the result, I can simply produce a new creation.
How do you do that you ask? The first place you start is in your thought life. Thoughts are the beginning of everything that is. Everything we see, touch, experience in our lives is the result of thought. Secondly, we need to be conscious of our action or inaction.
So now, lets speak practically. I have a relatively cluttered office space which I know needs to be organized and decorated. As I look around at my space, I wonder how this disorganized office was created. When we first moved into our home, we had a empty room, ready to become whatever I wanted to create. With every moment that I spend in the office, I make critical decisions on what I am creating. Lately, because of my actions, I have created an undesirable work location. Did it happen because I consciously said to myself, "I will add more clutter to my office every day." Of course not. To be honest, my mind has been nudging me to take time out to remove the clutter. But remember that thought alone does not create. Creation is thought and action.
As I tune in to my thoughts about the uncomfortable feeling of working in a cluttered office, and I take action to remove the clutter, I commence the act of creation. Soon, I will have created a wonderful, inviting office area that inspires me to create even more. So there you have it. We all have the power to create. The act of creation can be a wonderful thing if we use it for good and not evil. Now if you'll excuse me, I've got an office to organize.
We have all been there. After reading a fantastic personal development book, or attending a motivational seminar, you are ready to take over the world. New goals are written and more promises are made to yourself. Your life becomes anew.
A few months later you barely remember what you learned, your life reverts to what it was before your drastic changes, and you are off seeking that new message which will, once again, turn your life around.
For me, this is the most frustrating part of self development. We can never get enough of it, yet we sometimes barely see lasting results. How do we change this?
I believe the answer comes from how we view the personal development process. When we first begin to make changes in our lives we get excited about the results, not the process. Because of our misdirected focus, we cease to remain consistent in our daily actions and, of course our results quickly fade.
Think of your personal change as a process as necessary as bathing. This morning as you get ready for the day, you take a shower. The results of the shower, a clean fresh smelling body, stays with you most of the day. Throughout the day you go on about your daily tasks and, by the end of the day, the freshness fades and you find yourself in need of another shower.
Showering is a daily activity for all of us. We understand and accept that concept. We do not get frustrated because the results of yesterday's shower is no longer obvious. We do not become depressed and blame ourselves because we, once again, need another shower. On the contrary we simply jump in the shower, day after day, so that we can enjoy the results of our daily efforts.
The results of our personal development occurs because of our daily actions. We are fooling ourselves if we expect lasting changes from sporadic or non-existent efforts.
We need to truly grasp the idea that it is our daily efforts which produces the "lasting" change in our lives. Once we understand and accept this concept, we can then maintain that "shower fresh" feeling of personal growth every day.
Do you want to become successful? This question is asked of us by gurus who want to teach us the secrets of success. When we normally vocalize our desires in life we usually use the phrase, "I would like to be successful." When we use that phrase, it is like we are eating a large slice of fudge cake, we get an instant feel good moment filled with empty calories and litte nutrition.
Perhaps the reason that we do not become successful even though we speak of success time and time again is because the word by itself holds little meaning. Maybe the word meant something to you when you first began to improve your life, but now success has lost its juice. The word itself does not get you excited about reaching your next level of greatness.
Try this simple exercise, set aside a few minutes where you can get to a comfortable and quiet location. Then begin to describe your success, without words. Use only clear concise images to in your mind to "describe" your success. Do not stop until your image becomes so real that you can taste it. It may take a few sittings so do not be discouraged if the images are not crystal clear the first time. You know you have done this exercise correctly when the images invoke feelings as if you are really living the way you visualize. Finally, when you have those clear images, describe them using words. Describe every thing you saw, felt, and experienced. This, my friend, is your definition of success.
Notice how the word "success" does little to describe what you experienced in your vision. There is no feeling or commitment behind that simple term. Going forward, you want to verbally describe your ideal circumstances in the most detail as possible. This will create incredible momentum that will propel you forward to where you would like to be. Here's to your success!
One of my favorite scriptures in the Bible comes from Matthew 13:12. In the verse Jesus says, "For whoever has, to him more shall be given, and he will have an abundance; but whoever does not have, even what he has shall be taken away from him."
I've gone over that verse in my head time and time again not fully grasping the meaning of it. Why would more be given to those who had? How could you take away from someone who does not have anything?
I must have read that verse dozens of times before I received a profound realization of truth in the message. The epiphany came when I understood that the person who "does not have" actually does have. Otherwise, how could what he has be taken away from him? So how does the same person "not have" and "have" at the same time?
In my opinion, this person has but does not realize it. This person lives his/her life as though he does not have. This person complains about not having anything. This person constantly fixates on what others have thereby minimizing his own abundance. This person focuses so intently on lack that he only receives scarcity in his life. He is attracting more of what he is focused on.
The other person has. That person knows he has. That person is grateful for what he has. The first person may not have "had" in abundance, in fact, he may have had the same amount as the second person. Notice how Jesus says that "more will be given and he will have an abundance. That lead me to believe that he may not had abundance before. His thankful heart and gratitude allowed him to realize what he had before he was given more.
I always reflect this verse whenever I have a thought that says, if only I had ...
then I could...
When thoughts like this run through my mind, I stop myself dead in my tracks and ask "what do I have right now that I can use to meet this need?"
If I ask this question, I always find an answer. Correction, when I ask this question, I am always given an answer. The more I focus on what I have right at this very moment, the more abundance I receive in my life.
When the "if only I had" thoughts sneak into your mind, you need take hold of it. Answer those negative perceptions by focusing on the resources that you already have, no matter what they are. If you are constantly focusing on what you now have and being grateful for them, more shall be given and you will be given in abundance.